Stress can be both positive and negative in our lives. "Good stress” is a moderate level of stress that fuels growth and performance. The key is not to eliminate stress entirely but to manage it effectively. Below are ten strategies to turn stress into a constructive force.

Mind the Reaction. Stress itself is neutral—your response determines its impact. Use it as motivation to bring out your best. Match your coping mechanism to the level of stress, whether it's making a simple to-do list or seeking professional guidance.  Pro-tip:  When stressed, draw a capital letter "A" on a piece of paper and circle it for 10 seconds.  This is your reminder to always bring your "A" game - with intention, in the moment, now and always.  Choose your reaction, and make it your "A" game every time.  

Metacognition. Cultivate self-awareness when facing stress. Ask yourself: What am I feeling now? What do I need now? Connecting your emotions with your needs helps navigate tough situations. If available, get a 360 degree assessment of how you are dealing with stress and showing up in your job or at home.

Cognitive Loading. Avoid overcommitting. When overwhelmed, acknowledge it and take a step back. Managing tasks with a personal and professional mind map prevents mental clutter and allows for clearer thinking.  Pro-tip:  finish what you have started, and avoid having too many active issues in play at any given time.

Plan Ahead. Reduce stress by preparing in advance. Whether it's a key meeting, exam, or travel, proactive planning minimizes anxiety. When life becomes overwhelming, consider practical solutions, like outsourcing help, to restore balance.

Take Action. Combat paralysis by taking small steps—walk, talk, or engage in a simple activity. Adopt a growth mindset: instead of "I failed," say, "I now know where to improve." Reframing setbacks promotes learning and resilience.

Recharge Your Energy. Maintain physical and mental well-being through proper nutrition, exercise, rest, and meaningful relationships. Align work tasks with your peak energy levels to boost efficiency and effectiveness.

Control What You Can. Focus your energy on controllable factors instead of dwelling on what’s beyond your influence. Complaining and frustration waste energy; instead, shift towards productive action.

Identify and Manage Chronic Stressors. Assess ongoing stress sources, such as financial or work-related pressures, and find ways to reduce or eliminate them. A yearly review of stressors can help simplify life and improve mental clarity.  Pro-tip:  Review your last 90 days and ask yourself if you are living according to your values, or to other factors. 

Seek Help When Needed. Major life stressors—health crises, job loss, or family challenges—may require outside support. Seeking help is a sign of strength, not weakness. Take action on the advice you receive without guilt.

Have Faith. Sometimes, stress has no clear cause or solution. In such cases, trusting in a higher power or simply embracing uncertainty can provide comfort. "Let go and let God" reminds us that we can't control everything, but we can adapt.

Stress is an inevitable part of life, but by managing it wisely, we can use it to drive success rather than hinder it. As Hermann Hesse said, "Within you, there is a stillness and a sanctuary to which you can retreat at any time and be yourself."

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